mumblings of men

Had an interesting conversation today with the woman who sits next to me at work. She commented that men typically concentrate more on the tone of what they're saying than on the words they are using. As an example, she told the story of a neighbor's son to whom she is a sort of aunt. My co-worker was walking down the hallway of the school and said hello to this student. The student's friend asked if he was rich...as he was telling to the story to my coworker, she asked why his friend would wonder such a thing. This neighbor's son/student replied that it was because of my coworker's "snooty little walk". !! Her point was that if a woman made such a comment, my coworker would be in an uproar, but for this student/guy, it was just the words he came up with to communicate that she walks confidently...and as he had no malicious intent in his tone, it came off as very nonchalant. Interesting, eh?

After thinking about it for awhile, I think agree, though. It's rare that guys are catty and mean on purpose...it's usually just a slip of verbage/wordage. Do we think it's a good thing? Should women work on this...i mean obviously the catty/bitchy/mean thing should go away....but is what we say really all about tone, or do we have a responsibility to word choice even if we've gotten to a point where it really IS all about tone? My co-worker commented that the interesting thing about this lack of thought behind word choice for men is that it's a nice suprise when a man is able to effectively communicate through words and not just tone.

Does this all just come under the catagory of "men and women are different"?

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